Springtime Love and Heartache
Talia Scatliff | Relationship Editor
Some Spring Suggestions
Springtime seems to be either the time relationships either start or end. It’s crazy. It is hard to know at time whether you are really ready for a relationship. Or perhaps maybe you are you are just not meeting the right people…and falling out of touch with the people you do know. Whatever the story here are some guidelines that may help you out:
Relationships are supposed to be between two mature people. Trust me, they rarely are. Both sides of the party need to be able to communicate freely with each other. Sure, it is all fun and games until someone gets hurts. It is important not to get into something too deep leaving room for heartache knowing that your future intentions may not match up with the persons that you are “seeing.” After you have been seeing the same person for about 1-3 months, it is important to start communicating your feelings with them. If you are not going to put the effort into it, then they won’t either. If you are not willing to keep their attention, don’t be upset if they start finding it elsewhere. Guys: While you’re ignoring her, another guy is giving her attention…and while you’re giving her problems, another guy is listening. Girls: While you’re ignoring him, he is moving on and not caring about his problems, guy time wins.
Love does make us crazy; however infatuation can also be often confused with love and make us rush into things way too quickly. I truly believe you have to know how to stand on your own two feet before you can count on someone to sweep you off of them. Once you are stable in your own life, you can start to assess your feelings about letting someone else into your life. When it comes to love, know that you must love all of someone, their faults, mistakes, and more. I wouldn’t put up with too much but know that everyone makes mistakes, everyone deserves a second chance and everyone deserves respect. If you think the time you have spent with someone could eventually one day be something special, go for it. If you are unsure, give it time. Time tells us everything eventually. In the end remember what we first talked about however…maturity; be mature about how you handle your situations with relationships as after all we are dealing with one another’s feelings.
Getting to Know Someone
Remember that when you are still getting to know someone that you may know their name however you may not know their entire story. You’ve heard what they’ve done, not what they’ve been through. Don’t be too quick to judge. If you are having a good time with someone, then give them a chance, even a second chance. Never regret something that once made you smile. Forget that stress exists. Remember that you are young and be yourself!
If you need to “End It”
If you need to end something with someone you are either seeing or in a relationship with remember one thing: to communicate!
Try not to beat yourself up over ending a relationship or having a relationship end. Sometimes when you give up on someone, it’s not because you don’t care anymore but because you either feel or realize that they don’t. Other times it just plain and simple: the relationship isn’t working. If you are not happy when with the person that you are dating, move on. The sooner you move on, the happier you will be in the long run!
When to Give Up
One of the hardest parts of life is deciding whether to walk away or try harder. There is a time and place for everything in life. There is a time to try a little harder for something to work and there is a time to walk away. I believe that this is one of the trickiest things to figure out in life. We go through ups and downs daily, that is the way life is. If you have too many bad days when being with someone then that is certainly a sign that it is time for a change. Everything is worth a chance, and I have always believed in fighting to make a relationship work. It is worth a try. However, not everyone is alike and not everyone has that kind of fight in them. Sometimes it really is better to just let someone go.
Don’t promise when you’re happy, don’t reply when you’re angry, and don’t decide when you’re sad.
Love is not finding someone to live with; it’s finding someone you can’t live without.
The only people you need in life are the ones that prove to you that they need you in theirs.
Just remember this. If you don’t want me now, I don’t want you later.
Never chase anyone…a person who truly appreciates you will walk with you and won’t need to be chased.
“I am not like most guys.” – Most Guys
Falling in love is like giving someone a gun and letting them point it at your heart but trusting them not to pull the trigger.
Some people are meant to fall in love with each other, but not meant to be together.
The difference between “like” “love” and “in love” is the same as the difference between “for now” “for a while” and “forever.”
Learn to appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had.